You can be an unbelievably powerful leader.
You’ve heard people say “Great leaders are born not made,” right? Well I’m here to tell you- that’s bull.
You have the capacity to be a great leader, but it life isn’t going to hand it to you on a platter. It takes grit. It takes determination. It takes fire and passion. You have to be willing to fight for it, tooth and nail.
You have to be willing to grow, and you have to be willing to sacrifice.
Sounds scary, right? That’s because it is. I’m not going to pretend it’s easy, and I’m not going to make it sound nice and pretty for you, but you don’t have to go it alone.
I’ll say it again: you don’t have to go on this journey into leadership alone.
If you are willing to buckle down, make sacrifices, and step into your power as a leader, I’m here to walk you through it. I know what you’re going through. I know how hard it is. I had to work my ass off to get my business and my personal life to where it is now, and know my life is the best it’s ever been. That’s why I want to help you get there, too.
Here are three things that help me be the most effective leader I can be. I know that they will help you step into the power of your inner leader, too.
1. Stay humble
You are the greatest, but you aren’t better than anybody.
Too often when we think of leadership, images of people ruling with an iron fist pop into our heads. We think power as strong-arming people into our own way of doing things.
Well, let me let you in on a little secret, folks- this isn’t true leadership.
People learn through example, and one of the greatest things we can teach people is that it’s okay to be humble enough to make mistakes, as long as we learn from them.
Too often, we equate humility with poor self esteem, and confidence with arrogance, but humility and confidence go hand in hand.
When you’re too arrogant, you’re too caught up in appearances to take risks. But, when you are humble, it means you’re confident enough to take that risk you know you need to take to get your business or personal life to the next level, even if taking a risk means you might fail.
When you are humble, it means you are confident enough to take that leap of faith you’ve been wanting to take, even if it means you might fall.
Because guess what? You will fall. We all do. But you know who you are, and you know you are so much more than the times you have fallen. And, I’m here, along with your support system, to help pick you back up and get you back on your path to success.
Arrogance drives people away. Humility makes you magnetic.
Inhale confidence, exhale arrogance.
2. Be Coachable
Being coachable is so hard.
You’re a go getter — you know what you want and you have your plan on how to get it. You spend your time making your to-do lists and then powering through them. You work hard and do it yourself — you don’t depend on others because others depend on you.
But – what if you opened yourself up to what the world has to teach you?
What if instead of obsessing over your plans, instead of navigating through rigid schedules without taking a breath, what if you let yourself learn from the people around you?
What if (and believe me, I know how hard this is,) instead of trying to go it alone, you reached out and asked for advice?
I know how hard this is. I’m a wife, a mother, and I’m at the top of my business. People depend on me. But I didn’t get there on my own, and you don’t have to either.
I reached out and asked for advice. I took the words my mentors seriously, and I let them shape me.
My work would not be as powerful as it is without the coaching, advice, and mentorship of others.
When I learned to be truly coachable, to truly learn from the people and the world around me, I was better able to lead the people who depend on my every day.
Give yourself permission to learn from those around you.
3. Be consistent.
Go hard or go home – there is no in between.
Seriously though, there’s no way that anyone in the millionaires club made it there by screwing around. They took steps every single day towards the life that they wanted. If you want this, you have to fight for it.
You have to give it your all. If you want to be a true leader, you have to set goals, but that’s not enough. Once you have your goals in place, you have to pour your blood, sweat, and tears into them.
Make sure that you come up with tangible steps you can take every day towards meeting your goals.
Let me tell you, I did not reach the top level of my business in 90 days by day-dreaming about financial success. I came up with ambitious but achievable steps to take to get me to where I needed to be.
I’m a fighter. I fight hard, and I fight consistently every damn day. And I know you do too. I know you do, because if you didn’t you’d having a mimosa somewhere, not taking time to read about how to better yourself.
Not that fighting and mimosas are mutually exclusive.
I’m serious. Part of being a fighter is making sure you have the energy to fight– and that means being kind to yourself. Not only do you have to be consistent in tending to your personal and business goals, you also have to be consistent about taking the time to care for yourself every day.
So have that mimosa, then get back to fighting for your ideal life.
If you are persistent, you will get it. If you are consistent, you will keep it.
Gone are the days of following around anyone promising you some crazy get rich quick scheme. You don’t have to depend on some cash-grab promise from some charismatic figure who will let you down once again.
You don’t have to follow anyone, because you are already your own leader.
You already have what it takes to forge your own path. By practicing humility, coachability, and consistency, you’ll step into your strength, and own that inner leader we both know that you already have.