Hey. I know things feel crazy, unbelievably crazy.
You’ve got work, kids, a partner, community responsibilities, and oh yeah, a social life. You’ve got to take care of everything, but you only have 24 hours in a day, and you have to sleep for at least a few of them. There’s a lot going on, so yeah, you’re gonna drop the ball.
And when you drop the ball, it can be easy to feel not so great. Honestly, making mistakes and feeling overwhelmed can make you feel like crap. I know I’ve been there. I know a lot of other people have too.
It’s extremely common, especially for women, especially for working moms, to feel like they aren’t doing enough. To feel like they are always missing the mark. To feel ashamed.
And honestly, I get it. I’m confident as hell. I know who I am and what I want. But even I have days where it’s easy to just look down on myself. With all the things coming my way, It can be easy to forget all the incredible things I’ve accomplished.
But it doesn’t have to be that way. You don’t have to feel like crap, and you don’t have to be ashamed. You’re a fighter, and you’ve got to believe in all the power that you hold, and all the awesomeness that makes you you.
Everyone has an inner critic. That’s the voice that tells you you’re not good enough, you’re not strong enough, and you’re not worthy of all the awesome dreams you have for yourself. It’s important to not get a big head, and it’s important to stay humble, but guess what?
Most of the times your inner critic is a big ol’ liar.
And one of the biggest, most important ways to combat your inner critic and keep it in it’s place is to build up your inner fighter with positive self affirmations. When you build up your inner fighter, it takes up so much space that your inner critic has no other choice than to hit the road.
I practice affirming myself every day to keep from getting down and believing things that aren’t actually me. I have to stay positive, and feed the fighter in me, not the critic. I have to combat the lies with truth.
And I want you to do the same.
You on board?
So at this point, you might be wondering, how do I come up with affirmations? Affirmations that will speak my truth? Affirmations that will give me the strength to step into my power?
Well here are three simple prompts.
Who Am I?
Yeah, that simple.
But it’s not really that simple, is it?
I know you could fill volumes with who you are. Think about yourself at your best. On your best days, what quality do you radiate? What skills flow through you that make other people say wow? Who is your truest, best self?
Okay, now that you have it in mind, try writing it down in a sentence or two. Feel free to be as simple or flowy as you want. This is your time to speak your truth – using language that feels natural to you is important.
One affirmation that I am absolutely in love with is simply “I’m a fighter.” It captures who I am and what I do. I look myself in the mirror, tell myself, “I’m a fighter,” and I’m ready to take on the world.
What is My Intention?
What is it that you’re trying to do?
It could be anything that speaks to you. Your intention could be to reach out to the people around you. Your intention could be to be a loving mom. Your intention could be to kick ass and take names.
Whatever words light a fire in your belly, those are the ones you should be using.
What is Mine?
Okay, I don’t want you to go surface level here. Sure, maybe you have an awesome car or a great house, but that’s not what I’m talking about.
Think about the things that make you you. Your fight. Your drive. Your strength.
This one is so simple, but so transformative. Every day, I look in the mirror and tell myself “I have drive.” It makes me feel like I can go out and change the world with my own two hands.
So, now that you have some affirmations ready to go, what should you do with them? Well, look in the mirror, and say them out loud.
Yes, out loud.
I know it can feel a little uncomfortable at first. It might feel a little silly to say nice things about yourself in the mirror, but our words hold power. Speaking them out is a source of strength.
Coming up with affirmations that inspire me has been a completely unbelievable experience. It keeps me fighting and it keeps me strong. It puts my inner critic (which I admit can be really rude sometimes,) in its rightful little place. By using affirmations, I step into the power of who I am and claim my inner fighter.
I know affirmations will do the same for you.
Let’s talk! Leave your favorite affirmations in the comments.