Ego get’s a bad rap.
When we talk about ego, we talk about egotism, arrogance, and a general lack of self awareness.
Well let me tell you friends, that is dead wrong.
Having a strong ego keeps you grounded and aware of your power in the world. Having a healthy ego means having a healthy sense of self. And having a healthy sense of self means not thinking toxic thoughts about yourself.
But you’re not off the hook yet. Having a healthy sense of self also means not thinking you’re better than everyone else. When your ego is in check you are confident and humble. Keeping your ego in check is absolutely vital to be a successful leader in both your business and personal life.
Your ego can either destroy you or grow you.
I’m at the top of my business, and I want to let you know some insider knowledge. One of the main reasons why bright eyed, bushy tailed people in the networking industry fail is an inflated ego. They have the drive, they have the passion, but they think that they’re better than everyone else.
Egotistical entrepreneurs would rather be “right than rich,” which is a dangerous trap to fall into. If you are obsessed with always being right, then you will never take real risks, risks that lead to true success.
Think about it for a second. It hurts, but we all have to learn from our mistakes to reach any level of true success. If you aren’t humble enough to risk failure, then you aren’t brave enough to fail. If you aren’t brave enough to fail, then you are missing out on some of the deepest growth and the biggest lessons you will ever learn.
Arrogant people are not coachable. If you think that you’re better than everyone, that means you don’t think you have anything to learn. Well let me tell you something: you do.
I’m about to give you some tough love. If you don’t think you can learn, then you aren’t going to grow, and If you really don’t think that you have to grow, then your goals, personal and professional, will fail.
I know that sounds bleak, and I know I’m being tough, but believe me, I wouldn’t say it if you couldn’t handle it.
And I wouldn’t say it if I didn’t have the grit and capacity to make the changes you need to make to be successful.
On the other end of the coin, some people fail because they believe everyone else is better than them. This is also a recipe for disaster.
If you don’t believe in the value of what you have to say, then no one else will either. You have to step into your power and own your radiance. You have to know the deep-rooted value of what it is you have to offer, and then preach it from the rooftops.
No one will believe in you unless you believe in yourself first.
Here’s a little lesson I had to learn early on to get to where I am. You can say it as an affirmation, as a mantra, no matter which side of the coin you land on.
I am the greatest, but I am not better than anybody.
It’s okay to think you’re great – hell, in order to be successful, you have to know you’re great. But being great does not mean that you’re better than anyone.
If you find yourself too far on either end of the spectrum of the ego, if you think that you are better than everyone else, or that everyone else is better than you, then you need to take a step back. You need to take a long look inside yourself and see what needs to change.
I know it’s hard, but believe me, you are more than capable of making the changes you need to to accomplish your goals.
And you don’t have to do it alone. Take advantage of the resources around you to nurture your ego to a happy, healthy medium. Here are three easy steps to Overcoming Your Ego.
To achieve your goals, having a strong sense of self is vital. Your inner voice is what is going to keep you grounded and going strong. You are the reason you are going to be successful.
Just remember to acknowledge all the help you’ve received along the way. Always stay confident, grateful, and humble.
Ego is huge honey – keep it in check.